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One Hand Washed The Other

So there I was waiting for the train not he way in to the city. In NYC we have our trains that we like to take as well as the ones that are obviously convenient to our apartments or homes. Being on the train system in an experience that you will never forget if you take it just one time. The people are moving fast and with purpose. The trains are mostly gritty and very worn in. This is just common and we see it every day.

   When we are on the platform, as natives, we know certain things that tourists will not figure out while they are here. For example, certain trains will let you out exactly where you want to be above ground if you leave through the right exit. This requires getting on the train in the right car. This is helpful and becomes very easy to do once you pay attention to it. However, some trains are actually smaller in length. So you wait for it and then it passes you and you have to run. This not the most fun when it happens, trust me. You are there, relaxed and comf…

My Adult Perspective

When I was in my teens, the world was a vast and mysterious place full of many questions and unknowns. Now when I speak to people in my age bracket and even not, I see more things than I could possibly tackle at once. when you are young, as in your actual age, you truly have very little to be responsible for overall. I played and did chores and listened to my parents as they guided me through the rainstorms and the mini wars that I encountered. I remember how I viewed certain things as them just being straight up nuisances. Then I went away to college and it all came into focus as clear as a Zeiss lens on a 15 thousand dollar camera. I was trained well and I was on my own.

     Now I am an adult and life is astronomically different on many fronts. The way that I engage with people is a bit different as well. Actually, I engage with people quite the same, it's just that now I know when to do it differently if I need to. I can see how some energies need not be approached and how…

Moving You Into Action Vs. Soothing You Into Distraction

I have had some of the most eye opening experiences in business dealing in the past two years. I have learned that you have to set parameters for people in order to gain their respect. This works in both directions. When you set a specific intention that has repercussions if it is not reached, versus just letting things happen and accepting it will go how it will go is very different. There is a flow in life for sure. There is also a certain amount of letting things go as well. However, when you are dealing with moving forward for a very specific goal, you have to be vigilant.

    Here is an example. If you hire me to pick you up at a specific location at 4 pm everyday for the next 5 months. What would you do if I was late for the first 4 times? Let's say that I arrived at 4:30 each time. Would you continue to pay me and just adjust your day accordingly, or would you get a new driver? How about this one? You and I are dating and I offer to cook dinner for you in your apartment…

Process Pushing

We do not know what the next day holds. We would like to, we think that we do sometimes, however, we don't. It's exciting on some levels, yet most of the time it can be very unsettling. To think that there are some people who gave up on themselves and even others right before something massive was about to happen. In other words, they stopped mining right before they struck gold. So what is it about the process of growing, getting ahead, or making it, that we are so unsettled about?

  I know that many of us think that we should be on a higher level by now. There are even those who have no idea how they got to be so successful when they did all of the wrong things in their book. But the real point that I am getting at is that I now know that we are all involved in our own process. Meaning that we can fight it or take it easy and let it take its course. Does hard work and focus help? Yes, it does and always will, however, each one of us has a process to go through no matter wh…

Prepared To Be Unprepared

We would all love it if things just worked out the way that we planned it to. It would seem to be so much easier in the long right? Well, truthfully it would always wind up having a little but of a turn to it no matter what. I titled this posting this because we should all be at least a little. It prepared for those times that don't go as we plan it to. This is not to say that we should not expect things to go well at all. I am saying that if they do go wrong, just be ready to dust off and move on as fast and as fluidly as possible.

  I had a lesson to get to today at 1 pm. I got caught in traffic and I was sure that I would be late to teach my class. I got a slight bit of anxiety behind this, however, I told myself silently to relax and that it would all be fine. Not even 10 minutes later I got a text for my student saying that she was tired and could not do the lesson until Thursday or so. The universe had heard me or it just wasn't meant to be today. I then wanted to pick…

Rationalizing The Crazy

It's a very common thing. You are involved with a situation and you just cannot seem to see how crazy it is on your own. So you reach out to others and attempt to get some clarity. Then when they give you a viable and sane solution, you run into an "askhole". This is a person that asks for advice and then does the opposite thing. Think about it, I bet you know at least 5 people like this. The other solution is to just take carafe it assigning your best judgement. That of course is what got you into the mess in the first place right? But maybe this time it will be better, who knows?

   Let's say that you need something and for financial reasons you cannot get it at this particular moment. So you reach out to someone who can help you and they wind up getting it done for you. Well, as the saying goes, nothing is for free. Over the years, I have come to believe that some things are free. Love, tenderness, awareness, and the gift of our time can be given freely. The sn…

Coaches, Mentors, And Those Who Set An Example

I had a long conversation with a woman who hired a dating coach today.It was a fascinating conversation, trust me. She was so excited by the fact that he gave his time by session and not by the amount of time that they talked. This was amazing to me because usually they get paid by the hour. So this means that each client can speak with him for hours and get through all that they need to discuss. She spoke of their connection and how they got along so well. I was surprised to hear that they flirted quite a bit too. He sounded like quite a charmer and even told her that they should meet up in the near future. I love listening to her and I could feel her joy. A new energy is always a breath of fresh air, however, no matter how much we are coached, we have to show up and use our tools.

   Somehow after we started talking about the coach, I asked her how much was a dating coach these days? Have you ever asked someone the price of something and they take the longest way around to tell yo…