Life In The I Don't Know Lane

  So what do we really know about the future of our lives? Can you tell me where you are going to be next week at 2:30 in the afternoon on Tuesday? Can you tell me if you are going to be able to handle it when a random person approaches you full of rage and wants to go toe to toe with you at a moments notice? What about if a family member suddenly passes away and you have to deal with it in the best way possible. You could not possibly answer these questions and we are completely clear on that topic. Yet and still, some of us seem to know exact;y how a certain person is going to react if we say something to them or don't agree with what they are saying. It is like some people are emotional mind readers. Therefore, many possibilities in life are completely shut down for them.

   I learned a long time ago that we can only take care of ourselves. It will never change no matter how long we live. However, at times we feel that we can change others by acting a certain way or by withholding a piece of a story or something along those lines. I have also learned that when I tell myself that I am doing something a certain way to save someone else, that I am actually hiding behind my own fear. How much we own our fear and plunge forward says so much about our growth.  If you don't know what is going to happen, then you can set your soul up however you like. Nothing has happened, so you have a clean slate. Some would say you will know how to react when you know. I disagree.

    When I say know, I mean when you know what is going to happen. Unfortunately, we very rarely get to know what is on the horizon, that's what makes this journey so darn interesting for sure. The other day, I heard something that I was not supposed to hear. It was a comment that a person let out as they were hanging up the phone. The problem is, they did not hang up quickly and I heard it. I was taken aback, because I did not know that's person felt this way. It was a bit of a jab, but it depends on how I take it in the end. It could also be feedback that can help me to have better communication with this person later on. I processed it and I am going to let it go. I am taking it as feedback even though it stung like a rug burn. I didn't know that they felt that way. Now I do.

    Have you ever heard the expression,"Act like you know"? To me, this says it all. If you act like you are going to succeed, you generally will. If you act like you are going to get into loads of trouble, you usually do. If you act like you can handle anything that comes your way, you usually do too. We have to set up to be where we desire to be. That is the way that almost all of the successful people have done it before us. They didn't know half the time that they would have such good fortune either. Actually, some of them did know. However, they lived it, breathed it, and called it forth on a daily basis. So the next time that you say you don't know in an authentic way, make it count. Be setting up your definitive answer from the inside even if you cannot verbalize it out front.

     What we don't know can actually make us stronger. Because after it arrives, we will have obtained another lesson and then the next time we will be stronger, braver, sharper, and most of all hopefully more grateful. Let me know how you feel? I got your back.



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