How You Deliver It

  In a conversation with another person, you can be taken in a million ways. Many people have the best of intentions to set things up the right way and then it falls by the waist side. When we are frustrated or feeling mistreated, do we still have to package our voices in a way that makes the other person feel comfortable? I mean aren't we uncomfortable in those moments? Shouldn't we be entitled to act how we feel? We all know that it's a bit more complicated than that, now don't we?

   I had a conversation with a good friend of mine who I have some business dealing with from time to time. He did not do what he said he would, so I called him on it. However, instead of apologizing to me and making it better, he told me that my delivery was wrong. I had to step back and look at the video again. I reviewed it over and over again. I was stumped because I felt as though I had been mishandled, yet I was being ridiculed. I still backed down quite a bit, I just left the call a bit perplexed and with an even stronger hunger to build my own ship. Right now I was on his ship and he was making and breaking the rules that had been agreed upon.

   It's a complex thing to deal with so many personalities and schools of thought. Don't we all deserve to be treated with respect? Better yet, does being disrespectful ever really yield any positive and free flowing results? If you have been hurt for many years, does that make it energetically sound in your mind to do the same to whomever steps into your path going forward? These are all questions designed to make you think.Nothing more and nothing less. I am not angry as I type these words, I promise. I just wanted to get these thoughts out before I rest my head on the pillow.

   So how we render a word or a phrase does make a difference. Just as getting a gift in the bag that it was purchased in,is far different than having it elaborately wrapped in tin foil, colored ribbons, and Mardi Gras beads. I have no idea where I came up with that combination. In short, people hear your emotions behind the words that come out and they make a decision quickly. Even if you have the best intentions, it can still bring the house down. By the way, I never received an apology, but I gave one. On top of that I learned a lesson. It's not a bad thing to speak your mind and to have integrity. It is however a bad thing in my mind, to have integrity and mask it to meet the level of another just to save face and keep the peace. Because in the end, you are not keeping the peace. You are starting your own internal war, that you wind up having to battle on your own. Stay calm and take a big bite out of your day or night. You deserve it.



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