The "N" Word Is Your Friend

  There is so much controversy over this one word. It makes people do and say irrational things. It breaks up families, it sways judgement, it creates big messes one at a time, and for the most part it can be highly misunderstood. This word can be freeing and could actually help you in your day to day life. If used properly, it can change your entire life. Each time that I use this word, I feel strange and a little bit uncomfortable and I just cannot figure out why? Is it me or is it just the way that I was brought up? Why can't I just use it in a comfortable way with moderation while I am dealing with people who actually understand or can accept it? These are the questions that haunt me.

   Well, you have read this far, so let me put you out of your misery. The word that I am speaking of is  "NO". Many people have such a hard time forming their mouths to make this word come out. I am one of them. There are so many things going on in each person's life as it is. When you get crunched in your mind because you are dealing with someone Else's things, just say no. It can be done in so many passive ways that should not bruise you at all. I love to help people. Its on my top five activities in this life for sure. Its just that helping others should never put a damper on your life. If someone asks you for a favor and you don't want to do it, don't. If you are invited somewhere and you cannot make it or would not care to spend the money, don't.

   Its those people in our lives, usually close acquaintances or family, that ask for so much on so many different occasions, that it becomes just insane. This does not apply to spouses or couples for the most part. That is a whole other post. So when do you draw the line? When do you claim your hours in the day for yourself? Listen, I spend many of my hours helping others, so I tread lightly here, however, its who makes you feel good about it that you usually continue to help. This who seem to use you have to be introduced to this magical two letter word in the most pleasant way possible. They are still your friend afterwards, but they will have a new respect for you, we hope. Theses a slippery slope on some levels. There is freedom in the word no.

   As you can probably imagine, writing this post is direct therapy for me. I am speaking to myself and you are just here getting a birds eye view into my cranium at this particular moment. I hope you have some connection to this and can use it as well. We all have the same amount of minutes in a day, 1440 by the way. Use yours wisely and comfortably. If it includes helping others, do it. Just don't lose sight of the fact that, you matter too and you are at liberty to use all of them for yourself if you should choose that. Answering to anyone as to why is just a choice. Again, this is open to wild interpretation as it relates to married couples and so forth. No disrespect meant. I feel better now. Only thing left to do is to follow my own advice. It will be done.



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