The Validation Of Being Human

 It's the clearest thing in life in my opinion. We glisten from the inside when we are noticed in the slightest way for just being who we are. It comes in so many forms that it is almost daunting. In other words, the slightest recognition can actually change our entire day or for some our entire life.

  About a week ago, a good friend gave me a compliment that literally gave me pause. I prefer not to repeat it here because it seems a bit self serving to me. The point here is, the words made me feel elevated beyond description. They told me something that I did not know that they felt. It was deeper than I thought. I felt noticed, respected, and most of all seen.

  On the other hand, there is "not" being validated enough. This is when the person that you truly love, respect, and even adore beyond words cannot be validated enough. I brushed up against this not too long ago and it delivered one of the most powerful lessons of my entire life. The lesson learned was, every one's level of validation is different. Just because what you did for them or to them was not enough, it does not make you a bad person. You will sometimes miss the mark, or rather miss their mark.

  Just the simple gesture of saying hello to another person and asking them how their day is going is a tool that we can all use more often across the board. It lets the person know that they have a purpose and that what they are doing is making a difference. I challenge you tomorrow to let a person that you do not know at all know that they are doing a great job. You can even just compliment them on something that they are wearing. You could even offer to pay for half of a meal or something like that. Just tell them that you wanted to make their day a bit lighter just in case they were feeling a bit heavy.

  The thing that really fascinates me though, is when people do not think that they matter or are worth anyone noticing them. I was watching a short film on a group of people who could be selected to go to Mars for a study that would last indefinitely. These people would not return. They would stay there and just report and continue their lives there from now on. It struck me how at least three of them said that they had nothing to stay on earth for at all. They felt no validation nor any deep connection to anyone. I was just stunned. It made me feel as though these people had gone way too long without another person letting them know that they mattered, so they gave up and closed down.

   In closing, it seems that we have so much power over changing the vibration of those around us. We feel that we don't many times, but we really do. There is so much information written on the face and in the eyes of another human being. We could not hide it if we tried. Actually, its when we try to hide it that it becomes even more visible. So reach outside of you for the next few days and let more people know that they matter. Our gifts are nothing if we can't share them and we are nothing without our gifts that make us unique. The magic in every day come from the giving in every way.

   Thank you for reading and being here as much as you have been. My mind has been swallowing thoughts and experiences by the thousands during this long hiatus that I have taken away from my blog. I am filled to the brim now and I am back to set them all free. Be well and keep reaching.



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